Iris Azulai ‘ s 17-year-old daughter, Carmel, recently participated in a great concert in Tel Aviv by the Argentine singer Lali. Given Israel’s history, the fear of terrorism is always lurking, especially at mass events, but anyway, they would not have prevented her daughter from going.
“There is always that fear … but I let her go because I say we cannot allow terrorism to take over our lives,” the mother said Tuesday after the Ariana Grande tragedy in Manchester, England. “It can happen anywhere and I ask my daughter to be aware and take notice of her surroundings.”
Before a suicide bomber struck in the north of England on Monday, young Grande fans at the 21,000-seat Manchester Arena posted photos on social media with messages of excitement at the sight of their 23-year-old, high-ponytailed idol live. But now, some parents are thinking carefully about their children’s summer plans to attend the concerts.
“The worst thing is that if something happens there is nowhere to run and nowhere to hide. All these things pass through my mind when she’s there,” Azulai said.
Among the dead in Manchester was the 8-year-old waterproof oyster ca Roussos. She was the youngest of the 22 dead identified so far.
“The idea is that anyone can go to a concert and not come home is heartbreaking,” said Chris Upton, the head teacher at waterproof oyster ca’s school, Tarleton Community Primary School in the village of Tarleton, Lancashire.
For many families and children, the concert — especially of the freewheeling summer scenes that play out around the world — are a rite of passage, a step in the direction of independence. Count American singer and songwriter Victoria Monet, 24, in the demographic.
She was amongst the two opening acts for the Grande on the European leg of the Grande’s Dangerous Woman Tour. Monet said her 43,100 followers on Twitter after the deadly explosion in Manchester, that “those who came to have the night of their lives ended up losing them.”
Monet added: “They were not safe. I will never understand why this hatred! I don’t know how to handle this and I can’t laugh and I feel useless, I’m sorry.”
Julie Dearing in Houston, Texas, has a boy and a girl, a 13-year-old son not at all interested in concerts and an 11-year-old music lover who was, until they learned of the Manchester attack. Earlier this year, Clearing the daughter looked Fifth Harmony and other acts to perform at the NRG Stadium has a capacity of nearly 80,000.
“That was her first concert,” Dearing said. “I was not afraid, but I am now. I don’t know if I would let her go to a concert and I don’t expect her the question again, at least not for a long time. She pressed me they no longer have a desire to attend a large concert after hearing this news. It was very frightening, which is understandable.”
The fear will carry over into the mall, getting around by herself or with friends and other independent trips?
“I think it’s so associated with concerts more than anything else,” Dearing said. “I think they are fine, but I would rather err on the side of caution.”
As anxiety-inducing as a concert by children, or the parents live or not, Los Angeles licensed psychologist Crystal I. Lee sees no upside in letting fear take over.
“Car accidents are more harmful for your child than a terrorist attack, but you still allow your child to travel with the car,” she said. “Of course, remain for the exercise of your general judgement when deciding whether your child should go to, but don’t let the possibility of terrorism be the decisive factor.”
Easier said than done for some parents, especially those in Paris and other cities, which have been the target of terrorists in recent years.
Paris resident Shelley Boyd Cadiou’s three sons, the youngest is 18 — went to attend a Guns N’ Roses concert in Paris on 7 July in the Stade de France, one of the objectives in the November 2015 Paris, violence that left 130 people were killed. They are not more to the church because the creeps on the Manchester attack.
“I don’t think I would ever veto a concert like my children really wanted to go, but I’m always relieved if they decide for whatever reason not in the hustle and bustle,” Boyd Cadiou said.
The November attacks, the Bataclan concert hall, where most of the slaughter has taken place.
“I try not to let my anxiety touch other people, but the Bataclan event was very traumatic for me,” Boyd Cadiou said.
Jerrid Anderson, who recently moved to Paris from Minnesota, was planning to have his 19-year-old daughter, Hannah, the Guns N’ Roses show, but immediately decided against it Tuesday morning because of Manchester. His wife, Danielle Anderson, said that she was against his decision to stop, but let it stand.
“I don’t think we have to live in fear. I don’t really care if my husband and my children go to a rock concert, but what I don’t want to box in our lives out of fear for terrorism,” she said.
Aron Heller in Jerusalem and Thomas Adamson in Paris contributed to this report.