Kelsey Grammer talks about the death of his sister, his love, life and the joy of working on “Frasier.” Here Kelsey arrives at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘The Last Tycoon’ in July 2017.
Kelsey Grammer opened up about the death of his younger sister and the loss of the prominent family members in a new interview.
Grammer told BBC Radio 4 that the brutal death of his sister still haunts him, but he has now learned to forgive, but not forget.
“I’ve learned to forgive. I also told the man that I forgive him, although I do not advocate his freedom. I don’t think that is reasonable,” Grammer said on the radio show.
In 1975, Grammer’s 18-year-old sister, Karen, was abducted outside a restaurant by a serial killer Freddie Glenn. Glenn allegedly raped a teenager before brutally attacking her and let her die in the place of the crime. Grammer identified his sister’s body a week later. He was just 20 at the time.
Glenn was convicted in 1976 for the murder of Karen Grammer, along with two other victims of the previous year. The Supreme court made the decision to Glenn to seek parole after 30 years, but the former sitcom star has twice helped to block attempts to get Glenn to receive parole as justice for his sister and the other families who suffered loss.
At a parole hearing in 2009, Kelsey wrote a letter to the court, who said: “She was my best friend and the best person I knew. She had so much to live for. I loved my sister, Karen. I miss her. I miss her in my bones.”
“I was her big brother. I was supposed to protect her – I could not. I’ve never gotten over it… It almost destroyed me,” Grammer said.
For his sister’s death, the 62-year-old star first experienced loss in the age of 13 years old when his father was murdered during a burglary. And after the death of his sister Karen, Grammer two half-brothers, Stephen and Billy, died in a scuba-diving accident in the Virgin Islands.
In April 2015, Grammer opened up to Vanity Fair about his struggles with drug and alcohol abuse and how its use was caused by the guilt that he felt for his sister’s death.
“That was the time when I could not forgive myself for the death of my sister,” he confessed to the magazine. “I believe the gift of life and the freedom that he took of my sister, close to him ever to be able to enjoy a gift for themselves. He took away her future, her no attention to her whatsoever. He thought he had the right to do this. He assumed she was his property, and that the precious gift that God gave to her was him.”
Although Grammar has dealt with much loss in his life, his shining light was the nearly two decades that he played Frasier on the hit 90’s series. Grammer told BBC Radio 4 that “it was a joy, always” to play Frasier – a sign that he never tired of playing.
“The beauty of the play of Frasier was you could pretty much do anything. I mean, could pull off every trick that I have in my bag and it would still fit on “Frasier”, he was hard and big and boisterous and then subtle and beautiful and moving, and you had all the notes you can play.”
(Kelsey Grammer and his wife Kayte Walsh attend the Vanity Fair oscars after-party.)
Grammer’s private life, his marriages and romances are often found in the tabloids, but at this time, the star remains happily married to Kayte Walsh, with whom he has three children.
“This beautiful young lady lit up my world and my heart, that was a little calloused and hardened against a lot of things,” he said in Vanity Fair. “And we are good, and I feel young and alive.”