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Online dating in the Trump era: Relationship experts say more people are now linking on the basis of political compatibility.
There is no denying it: we live in a politically charged atmosphere, and the creeping of the ring road and in other areas of everyday life – including dating! Whether you lean to the left or to the right is a “bigly” factor in the decision, or “to the left” or “right” when looking for love. And if people from both sides of the aisle double down on their beliefs, the lack of a compromise is taking a toll on relationships – especially after the election of Donald Trump.
And there is data to back it up. According to a Reuters/Ipsos poll, 29% of Americans say that the Trump presidency has negatively affected at least one of their relationships. A 2017 Wakefield Research, entitled the ” Trump Effect on the American Relations,” nearly 30% of Americans who are married or in relationships say that the current, hyper-charged political atmosphere has led to tensions with their partner. And a study of one million members of the dating site OK Cupid found 65% of the users would not even entertain the thought of dating a Trump supporter.
The so-called “Trump” Effect, is also boosting business for divorce lawyers as Lois Brenner. “I do this for about 35 years, and I’ve never seen anything like it,” Brenner told the New York Daily News. “It’s kind of amazing. It is really surprising and amazing.” But there is at least one group was not surprised by this trend: relationship experts. “When I started almost 30 years ago I would inform you about the politics as I would about any other factors that go into making a match. What I have seen is the polarization that takes place in politics, it is now not a factor to be considered, but it is almost a deal breaker for a lot of people,” Leora Hoffman, a professional matchmaker based in Washington, DC, told Fox News. She also says that she personally witnessed situations where a couple has broken about a lack of political compatibility, and it is becoming more common.
There are now a number of apps and websites catering for singles specifically looking for people with same political beliefs, so you don’t have to be “left” if you see someone whose views conflict with yours. But there are still a number of people who are willing to branch out of their political comfort zone in their search for a partner. A woman who describes herself as a political independent, would not mind going out with someone with a different faith, “as long as you’re not too far left, too far to the right, your brain, you can actually think.” Another single looking for love, who identifies himself as firmly on the left told us that he is open to dating someone from the other side of the aisle, because “it is not a’ one size fits all kind of thing.” But he says that political compatibility is of the utmost importance, because it is going to come up eventually”.
How does a young dater navigating the hyper-partisan atmosphere, so romance can survive in the political gap? Hoffman says she believes honesty is the best policy from the beginning, and it is advisable to not shy away from the truth when it comes to your own political beliefs. “While someone might say that they’re in the middle of the road politics, they really have an opinion, and it takes place on the first date,” she said. Hoffman also encourages the singles in the dating pool for the placing of a greater emphasis on the things that they have in common. “If they concentrate on what makes them feel connected with each other, instead of looking at the differences, especially in the beginning, they are going to embark on a healthier foundation,” she said
And it is not all bad – despite the current political climate, some couples with opposing views are capable of maintaining an ideological healthy relationship. A woman told us: “I wish I would have known before I married my husband’ s political views a little better.” But for this twofold union, the secret is simple: “We don’t talk about politics at home,” she said.
Steve Rappoport, is a News Producer and Anchor for Fox News Radio. Follow Steve on Twitter @SteveRappoport.