Bride-to-be hit complains about heirloom ring: ‘It looks old’

An anonymous bride-to-be is swept up on Reddit complains about her “second-hand ring.”

Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth — and then posting it on social media.

A bride-to-be is swept up on Reddit complains about her “second-hand ring,” which she called “old and the stones looked average at best.”

The anonymous woman who in the forum “Am I A——,” looking for advice for handling the situation with her potential fiance after she embarrassed her ring for him.

“I and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years. We live together and we have a 4yo daughter. I was waiting forever for him to propose. So I was very excited when my sister told me that my friend asked her what kind of ring would suit me, and he sent her a number of photos of Tiffany’s,” the bride says in her post, to describe the proposal.


“I said yes and he showed me the ring. It was not a new one. It looked old, and the stones looked average at best. When I asked him he told me that his mother gave him her ring. He told me that he had a great sentimental value because his father was the only man his mother ever truly loved and I am the only woman he will ever love. His father is no longer there, and his mother gave it to him.”

Although the sentiment was sweet, the bride goes on to say “it doesn’t look great.”

“Also, I don’t want the [beginning] of my new life to start with a second hand ring. When I told him this, he became very angry and told me that he had never thought that I was so materialistic and he just left. He’s not even replying to my messages or calls.”


The bride, who was hoping to get advice for her situation, was instead soon met with dozens of responses slamming her reaction and calls her “a——.”

“If this REALLY is your first instinct if your man proposes to you, do him a favor and actually not go through with the wedding. It is intended to be about sharing a life with the person you love, not the rock, he puts it on your finger,” wrote.

“It is so much MORE special than what the Local ring that 300 other people…I feel so honored when someone has something for me! You really need to evaluate,” said another.

“Don’t worry, there are tons of us beautiful women out there who are not materialistic and nutty as her,” a user said.


“That ring probably means more to him than you think… Maybe you can get it buffed and gloss it a little bit?” another person wrote.

Although there were a few that seemed to come out on her side, the defense of the bride’s personal style.

“No, that is fine. Let your partner know that in advance and do it tactfully,” a Reddit user wrote, before defending themselves with a follow-up post: “So my husband would be an ass as I had with my grandfather’s ring? Even if I knew that it wasn’t his style and he would see it as too much? He would not be wrong to wear it every day?”

Despite that defended her, the bride finally came around to see she was in the wrong and responded to one of the comments, saying: “I f-ed up big time.”

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